With Aware Parenting Discussions after class-> Planning for Parenthood/finding more ease, joy and connection as a parent.
At the Lismore Birth House
July 14, 21, 28
$50 for 3 classes or $20 for drop-ins
Are you looking for more sleep as a new mother or some valuable tools in preparation as a mother?
Come and join for a 3-week mums and bubs/pregnancy set of yoga classes, which also incorporate Aware Parenting discussions after class.
These special 3 classes will run on Wednesdays at the Lismore Birth House:
July 14, 21, 28
$50 for the 3 classes or $20 drop-in
Quiet the Mind
Strengthen the Body
Nourish the Soul
While learning about the Wisdom of Crying for more Ease and Joy in your Parenting Journey.
I’m always amazed to see the correlation between stress and crying. Did you know that there’s a direct link? Babies and children that have stress or accumulated emotions due to stress or trauma can heal by crying to release these big emotions. Stress can come up from overwhelm on a big shopping trip or days apart in daycare with experiences to process. Trauma could be related to a frightening experience, big day out or birth trauma (or other reasons).
Children that are healed and free of stress or emotions from trauma are relaxed, sleep great, alert in the day (can mantain eye contact), communicative, non-violent and no longer triggered by trauma reminders.
If your baby or child has trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, separation anxiety, challenges around sitting in car seats or other cooperative requests, concentrating for periods… then, you may want to learn more about Aware Parenting to find more ease and joy in your parenting journey.
Aware Parenting (AwP) is an approach to parenting that was founded by developmental psychologist Aletha Solter. I can vouch, first-hand, that both of my children sleep great, communicate clearly with me (sometimes through tears and tantrums or laughter and games), enjoy therapeutic play games (attachment play) to process, laugh or heal, cooperate with each other, learn lucidly and love life! This approach has not only changed my parenting life but also me as a person, learning valuable listening techniques, self-care reminders, healing from my childhood and a deeper sense of presence, empathy and mindfulness in my daily life.
Sometimes red flags come up, and I notice that my children are feeling upset. They may become aggressive (ie hitting) or suppressive (ie screens). I calmly set loving limits and allow their tears to come through, as I lovingly support them. As babies, I would notice their clinginess, or lack of eye contact, or disturbed sleep as a sign of stress and need to release big emotions. As parents, we can meet the needs of our babies and children, fill them with warmth & love and support them to be the best versions of themselves. Ever since my daughter was 6 months old (5 years ago) and my son was born (2.5 years ago), I have listened to their tears and tantrums with love and without judgement.
Babies and children who are/were stressed or had traumatic experiences can release the emotions that are held in their bodies through crying and being listened to in arms. they can always catch-up. If parents were stressed during pregnancy, or there was a birth trauma, for example, if a baby has developmental frustrations or had frightening experiences, or even if babies or children have really big days or new experiences to process, crying or laughter attachment play games with the support of a carer can help babies and children relax, heal, be more cooperative and be able to concentrate better.
According to the Aware Parenting Philosophy, we can ask: Why Do babies cry? 1.) -> Communication: Baby has an immediate need, like physical closeness, food, stimulation, etc, so as carers, we can fill the baby’s need as best as possible. OR 2.) -> Stress Release: Baby has an emotional or physical hurt or stress, such as a physical hurt or trauma, emotional hurt, accumulated stress. If #2 is the reason, as parents we can remove the source of pain, hold our baby or child lovingly and listen to the crying.
This helps our baby feel loved and safe. Crying and tears that are emitted though crying has anti-stress hormones that are excreted from the body (oxytocin). It is an emotional healing mechanism. have you ever had a beautiful crying release where you felt held and supported, whether with a friend or therapist? The same feeling of lightness happens for our little ones when they are supported in their crying with their most loved ones. Emotional stress can be healed by babies being held in arms and empathetically listened to while crying. Toddlers and children may want to move around, but to have their carer close by. Healing happens when another is supporting us.
It’s always important to check for a pain or an immediate need when our babies or children cry. If they need to cry to release emotions, the AwP approach suggests to stay calm, listen hold our little one lovingly and to say something like, “I hear you. I’m listening.” (I wouldn’t suggest something like, “Here’s a cookie. Stop crying.” Or “Let’s go for a walk in the pram to stop you from crying.”) Allow the crying to continue for as long as it needs and as long as the carer can be present through the emotions. All of these big emotions coming out will help our little ones feel better! Our little ones must feel safe and connected to the carer. They will keep trying to cry and be heard until they are healed from the stress or trauma, which is why often babies wake up in the night to cry. I recommend finding time and space during the day or before bed to allow emotions to be released, so that our children can sleep. They want a great night’s sleep as much as we do.
Post-crying results in health benefits, such as lower blood pressure, lowered heart rate, lower body temperature and the ability to learn better (yup, a higher IQ). Research has found that crying is actually more beneficial to our health than exercise.
If you are interested in learning more about this approach, please don’t hesitate to contact me. I am an AwP practitioner, helping families sleep better and find more joy and ease through workshops, 1-on-1 consultations (usually 1 hr in person or online) and mother’s circles. My email address is [email protected] or 0415533311. Also, I teach mums & bubs/pregnancy yoga classes at the Lismore Birth House on Wednesdays. After class in July we will discuss AwP topics. Alternately, I have time after the classes and discussions for 1-on-1 appointments on Wednesdays from 1pm at the Birth House.
I hold a Master’s degree in Conflict Resolution and Mediation, and I am passionate about supporting families find more understanding, peace, joy and sleep.
Would you like to learn some strategies from the Aware Parenting perspective about being a mother of 2 and how to help your little ones adjust to the growing family? If yes, please listen this conversation that Marion Rose and I created.
Testimonials: “Mums & bubs yoga helps my baby sleep better. I’m currently in the middles of one of these classes and cannot recommend them more! Very nurturing and with a yummy, healthy snack and chat afterwards.” -Cat
Laura’s massage was the best one I’ve ever had and doing yoga with her was the best decision I have made for myself and my baby during my pregnancy. It definitely contributed to my healing labour after a difficult one the first time around.-Shantele
“My 8 month old baby boy and I attended Laura’s yoga classes at The Birth House, Lismore for 3 consecutive Thursdays. We really enjoyed our time in Laura’s space. It was so inviting, warm and nurturing. Mums and Bubs are welcome to do anything necessary to meet the needs of bub throughout the duration of the class and the class is easily adapted for accommodating any eventuality with respect and understanding. Laura had me mesmerised at her ability to yoga so effortlessly whilst being in the 3rd trimester of pregnancy with her 2nd child, it is a testament to her professionalism and passion for yoga for Mums and Babies. Directly after practicing yoga it was always so homely and comforting to share a cup of tea and homemade goodies that were a beautiful touch. It really does take a village to raise a child and it is nice to build your village with Laura, she’s such a beautiful and genuine person. I will miss my Thursday sessions with her and so will you once you have shared that space with her.” -Melanie
Are you looking for more time to be present with yourself and to connect with other like-minded mums? Give yourself a chance to fill up your cup and heal through sharing and listening. We’ll do some yoga & meditation. Share how you are doing in partners and in the circle (whether it be about being a parent or anything else in your life), + learn tips & resources from the Aware Parenting perspective. If possible make it child-free (babies are welcome).
I had NEVER, ever tried Yoga (I’m 52) until I tried a class with Laura In September 2020 at our local Community Hall. I have to say; these classes are fantastic and are something I start looking forward to as soon as our weekly class ends! From the very first class I have loved Laura’s enthusiasm, patience, love of Yoga, her skills as a teacher and her joyful sense of humour. Laura makes every person in our class feel welcome, included, she makes us aware of our progression as skills improve and supports us to feel completely valued. I would recommend working with Laura to anyone looking for an amazing experience.
New to this experience, Laura’s classes were a perfect introduction to yoga for me. From day one I was made to feel very welcome & supported, & several months on the classes continue to find little variances that keep me challenged. I love that it is not just about the poses but includes some very helpful reflections & mindfulness exercises. I look forward to this peaceful hour every week.
Come and join for Hatha Yoga classes: a wonderfully blissful, relaxing, and rejuvinating experience, held at *The Channon Hall* on Tuesday evenings, meditation, pranayama, asanas, chanting, relaxation. 6:15-7:15pm, $15/class or $12/conc or awesome monthly rate and *Keerong Hall* on Wednesday evenings, meditation, pranayama, asanas, chanting, relaxation. 6:30-7:30pm, $15/class or $12/conc or awesome monthly rate.
The last class of the year will be on Dec 16. Watch this space for a special dark moon yoga class and a full moon class in January. Regular weekly classes will resume at the beginning of February 2021.
Pregnancy and mums & bubs yoga classes will also be on hold over the long summer holiday period. Classes will resume at the start of Feb 2021.
I encourage everyone to develop/continue a home yoga asana (stretching) and pranayama (breathing) practice over this summer period, as well as to rest in shavasana (lying down relaxation pose) regularly.
Hello ❤️🙏, How are you? Are you a parent looking for more balance, energy and support? Starting Oct. 25, I am so happy to commence a 4-week online workshop, incorporating yoga and Aware Parenting techniques to help families find more peace, compassion and understanding during these unusual times. I would love to support you on this parenting journey. Please join us to: ~heal, connect, receive/give empathy. ~learn why babies & children have disrupted sleep, can become aggressive or non-cooperative ~ develop techniques to help babies and children heal, sleep better and be more cooperative without punishments and rewards ❣️October 25- November 21 (4 weeks) 🙏$80 ~ please contact me for booking details by PM or Laura 0415533311 [email protected] ❤️4x online fb lives ❤️4x small group personalised zoom sessions ❤️written info ❤️study guides ❤️plenty of opportunity for you to share how you are, be supported and ask any & all questions. Themes over the 4 weeks will include: -benefits of the “crying-n’arms” approach, how tears & tantrums are both a little one’s tool for communication and a natural healing mechanism -understanding the causes of children’s behaviour: feelings, needs and information -suggestions for eliciting cooperation in toddlers and children + attachment play activities to strengthen attachment, help children heal and resolve discipline problems -loving limits -your healing: relieving stress, being heard and relaxing 🥰 This workshop will run over 4 weeks. Oct 25th is the first day with a group zoom session at 10am Sydney time. Other times of zoom sessions and fb lives will depend on when you are available… possibly continuing on Sunday mornings and Thursday evenings. Don’t worry, though, we can work around each other’s schedule to find the best time to run these sessions. Lots of love,
P.s. if you would like to hear a bit more about Aware parenting before the workshop begins, and if you are local, then please come and join for a sat morning talk on Saturday oct 10 at the Lismore birth house or Monday Oct 19 in Mullumbimby at the Byron Pregnancy Support group 🙂
Laura Shaz is a certified yoga teacher, Aware Parenting (AwP) instructor and Ayurvedic massage therapist. She holds a master’s degree in Conflict Resolution and Mediation. She teaches yoga locally and for mums & bubs and pregnant women at the Lismore Birth House, gives massage and holds AwP consultations, workshops and mum’s circles. She is passionate about physical and emotional healing for families and about making mothers’ and families lives more joyful.